Do not live for other people, but for God. He is the reason why you are on this earth. Remember that He has the LAST word and is the only one to judge you. It does not matter what others say because those people will not be there in the end. So while you live, live to please God. Make HIM proud. Because He loved YOU first, prioritize Him first as well. Everything and everyone else will be your last concern.
This man. His story.
The world isn’t totally hopeless.
- society: Everyone's beautiful.
- society: Don't eat though, you don't want to get fat.
- society: You don't eat? Anorexic freak!
- society: You're a size 4? You're supposed to be a size 0!
- society: You're an A cup? What are you, 8?
- society: You're a C cup? That's my mums size.
- society: You had sex?! Slut!
- society: You haven't had sex? Hah, you're frigid!
- society: You don't think you're pretty? Attention seeker!
- society: You think you're pretty? Conceited much?
- society: You believe in gay rights? Homo!
- society: You're depressed? Attention seeker!
- society: You cut yourself? Still attention seeking!
- society: You can't go on? How much attention do you want?!
- -someone kills themself-
- society: Oh, they were so beautiful! Society sucks!
In the 7th grade, you’ll hear for the first time that you’re imperfect, disgusting, and that you need to change you body in order for people to like you. Don’t believe it. Don’t let this fester inside of you, because it is poison. In an effort to change yourself, you will try starve off the love-handles and belly, go on numerous secret diets, and spend far too much time hating yourself. I need to tell you that you never reach what you think of now as “skinny”. But I do want you to know that one day you’ll get to this amazing place where you love your body without feeling that it needs to be changed.
When your aunt compliments you on losing weight after going two weeks with little food because you’re in a bad place emotionally, remember that your mind is more important than your body. Try not to feel like losing weight is an accomplishment. When your boyfriend tells you how to wear your hair, I want you to dump him and wear your hair however you want. When the TV tells you you’re not good enough, I want you to change the channel and eat that brownie anyway.
I know you worry that you’ll never be loved, but I promise you that you will grow up to be loved by many people, to experience amazing things, to grow into someone you’re proud of — and you’ll do it all without having to change your body into something it doesn’t want to be.
Please be gentle with yourself. Remember that you’re still learning, and it’s okay to make mistakes. And you will most definitely make mistakes. Learn how to apologize and mean it, learn how to forgive yourself. I’m still working on that one myself, but maybe if you get a head start you’ll get there sooner.”
The moment I saw this, I knew what I needed to do. Two things: take a picture & tumblr about it.
This picture was taken from the girl’s bathroom downstairs in my school just a few minutes ago. I know these kind of photos are already all over tumblr, but for me, it has a deeper meaning to it. I’m sure the picture already speaks for itself, but let me tell you a story.
A few years ago, I found out that one of the people close to my heart has been suffering through an eating disorder: Bulimia. At first, I didn’t know how to react. Do I keep it to myself or tell someone? You’re probably already thinking ‘Uh, of course you tell someone!’ Well, easier said than done. One of the things I learned while researching about body dysmorphia was that anyone who had it, always denies or is not even aware that they have it. So how are you supposed to help someone when they are unaware of their actions? Things became worse and I knew I needed to step up. How did I do it? Through the gift of writing. 90% of my english essays & presentations throughout grade 10-11 consisted of something beauty related. As impossible as it sounded, I wanted to let every person know that the image in the mirror matches the true one within.
A close friend of mine & I partnered up for our final project in English 11 Class and agreed that it would be body image related. Our topic: How does the media contribute to our perspective of beauty? By the time we finished presenting ours, the class was already dead quiet. Crap, why are they not saying anything..? The teacher signaled the next group to go & asked us to take our seats. A few minutes before the bell, one of my classmates approached me. ‘Justine, that was… I felt like crying. Just… thank you.’ From that moment on, I knew what I was capable of. If I could touch at least one person, then what makes it so impossible to do for a million people?
Day by day, graduation is just around the corner. Next thing I know, I’ll be in university already. ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ is a question I cannot go a day without someone asking me. I think I want to be a social worker, but then again I’m pretty indecisive. Although, I know what my dream job is; a dietitian who specializes in eating disorders. Is it unrealistic? Not really. So what’s stopping me from doing it? Many reasons that I would rather keep to myself. But after today, after coming across these post it notes.. it was like a message sent from God. A motivation & an encouragement from Him that I shouldn’t give up on what I want to do because this is my gift. This is something he has blessed me with that I need to use to bless others as well.